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Christian Wedding Ceremony

 

STATEMENT OF PURPOSE:

You may be seated.

Family and Friends:  We have come together in the presence of God to witness the joining together of this man and this woman in holy matrimony.  This sacred relationship of marriage was established by God in creation.

The marriage of husband and wife is intended by God for their mutual joy; for the help and comfort given to one another in prosperity and adversity.  Therefore, marriage is not to be entered into lightly, but soberly, deliberately, and in reverent fear before God.

Into this holy union, ________________ & ________________ now come to be joined.

Prayer – Lord please bless this day, the words and promises being said and bless ________________ and ________________ as they begin their new life together.  Amen

 

DECLARATION OF CONSENT:

Groom:  ________________, do you take this woman to be your wife; to live together in the holy covenant of marriage?  To love her, comfort her, honor and keep her and to be faithful to only her for as long as you both shall live?  If so, please answer, “I do.”

Bride: ________________, do you take this man to be your husband; to live together in the holy covenant of marriage?  To love him, comfort him, honor and keep him and to be faithful only to him so long as you both shall live?  If so, please answer, “I do.”

THE GIVING OF THE BRIDE:

To the bride’s father:  Who is giving this woman to be married to this man?  The bride’s father answers, “Her mother and I do.”

(Escort can hug/kiss ________________ and hand bride off to groom…and ________________ and ________________ will walk to center stage to face minister)

THE MARRIAGE VOWS:

(Bride hands flowers to first or second lady in her party.  One of these two also will help straighten her gown if necessary.  Bride and groom stand beside each other and will then move as cued … see next line … )

________________ and ________________, will you face each other and join hands, and repeat these vows after me?

Groom:  I, ________________, take you, ________________ to be my wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death; as God is my witness, I give you my promise.

Bride:  I, ________________, take you, ________________ to be my husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death; as God is my witness, I give you my promise.

 

READING OF SCRIPTURE:

(Bride and Groom continue to face each other while listening to this portion of scripture)

God’s word reveals what marriage is intended for.  Paul , in Ephesians 5:21-31, chose to use the symbol of marriage to describe the church family and it’s relationship to Jesus.

Reading of Ephesians 5:21-33 with comments.

21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.29 After all, people have never hated their own bodies, but they feed and care for them, just as Christ does the church—30 for we are members of his body.31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one …

This section of scripture begins with, ‘submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.’  As a husband and wife, you are asked to lift each other up, look to the needs of your spouse and to love and respect your spouse…in reverence before our King.  When you not only focus on that first part…with the husband and wife…but the second part about Jesus, you realize that this isn’t just wisdom for a marriage that is long lasting through good and bad times, but it’s done because of our Creator and for Him.

We are made in very different ways, wired differently, and then when you place differences in personality and how you were raised and your own personal experiences, it can be tough to sort things out and make decisions about how to lift the other person up.

If you look at how we are to treat each other as Christians, and Jesus’ life example to us, you find that marriage isn’t a situation where each person gives 50% and meets in the middle.  We’re asked to love the other 100%…even when it’s hard and outside of our comfort zone.  In a second I will explain the reason for this even further.

Guys are known for doing things…and talking about jobs, careers, hunting, racing, fixing, protecting, and providing for.  Wives are asked to respect them for the way God has wired them.  In this way a wife can lift her husband up and help him feel needed for what he brings to the marriage.

The husband is asked to love his wife as Christ loved the church.  Women are known for their ability to build and hold relationships.  They are in touch with emotions and look for security and safety for her family.  Guys are asked to love their wives in this way, to respect them for the way their Creator has wired them, to build them up and to help them feel needed for what they bring to the marriage.  Jesus went to the cross and died for his church.  Scripture asks that a man love his wife like that…and when he does, she will feel open enough to respect him the way that lifts him up.

This is very much a “love each other as you want to be loved, scenario.

Here’s the big picture.  Many people get “married” by a signature on a certificate provided by the state.  But a marriage before God is very different and has a much greater purpose.

How a husband and wife love each other, forgive each other, work through each other’s weaknesses and mistakes and sins, shows others how Jesus loves His bride, the church.  It’s a living flesh and blood picture for the world to see.  Marriage can very well be, for those who willingly take the challenge, a mission and ministry…for that is what it was created to be

The Word of God describes the kind of love we are to have, each for the other:

Reading of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails.

THE EXCHANGE OF RINGS:

Having this kind of love in your hearts, you have chosen to seal your vows by the giving and receiving of rings.

May I please have the rings? …

These rings are symbols of the love you are pledging yourselves to today.  They are made in a circle which reminds us that perfect love, like God’s love, never ceases.  And they are made of precious metal…reminding us that the unconditional love is often rare and often may be very costly.

________________ please take the ring you’re giving ________________ and repeat this promise after me…

________________ (repeat after minister) – I give you this ring, as a symbol of my vows and promise, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you.

________________ please take the ring that you’re giving ________________ and repeat this promise after me…

________________ (repeat after minister) – I give you this ring, as a symbol of my vows and promise, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you.

BOX CEREMONY:

 Through the time that ________________ and ________________ have known each other, they’ve exchanged cards and notes and letters.  And as many couples have done, they’ve put them away as keepsakes.  Last evening they both wrote a letter to their fiancé on the eve of their wedding.  Now the other has not read what was penned, but on their first anniversary this box will be opened and they will go through their past notes and then read this new letter to the other.

COMMUNION:

________________ and ________________, you’ve chosen to remember Jesus in a very special way today.  In the Bible, believers in Christ are invited into a very unique and deliberate act…the act of communion or the Lord ’s Supper.  There’s a very simple reason Jesus asks us to do this.  He knows that in our imperfect and sinful state, we’re going to forget about Him.  With the kids that I help lead in worship each week, we take communion and I ask a simple question.  How many of you remembered Jesus all of last week?  No one raises their hand, because we often forget our Creator and our Savior.  We forget about the one who can take us to eternity with God forever.  How in the world could we forget about that?  Well, we forget because …it’s pretty simple… we’re selfish.  When Jesus was sitting at what we call His last supper He raised both the bread and juice and thanked His father for supplying them as food and drink…then asked to disciples to eat them with him to “remember.”  We often read the phrase, “Do this in remembrance of me.”

Today you’ve chosen to close this God given ceremony by remembering the reason we exist and the reason you have way to Heaven…through Jesus’ death on the cross.

________________ and ________________, as you take the bread, you remember Jesus’ body, which walked among us on this planet, was beaten and hung on a cross for your sake and then later came back to life defeating death.  As you drink the juice, you remember that His blood, the Blood of the Lamb of God, wipes away the sin that separates you and God, so that you can again become close to Him from now into eternity.

Amen

(Bride and Groom walk forward to center stage facing crowd…We all pause while ladies in party return flowers to bride and straighten gown if necessary)

 

 

 

PRAYER FOR THE BRIDE AND GROOM:

Let us all go to the Lord in prayer.  Lord we thank you so much for this day.  We thank you for the love that we can see is shared between ________________ & ________________.  We also thank much more for your love.  I ask that you wrap your unconditional love around them.

Help them to lift each other up in this lifelong commitment.  I ask that you encourage their family and friends to lift them up, and model for them healthy and Christ centered marriages and relationships.  Bless this day to be just the first day of a marriage full of happiness, peace ministry, and most of all your love.  It’s in your son’s name that we pray.  Amen.

PRONOUNCEMENT OF MARRIAGE:

________________ and ________________, by the authority of the State of ______  and the infinitely higher authority of our God and Creator,  I pronounce that you are husband and wife and ________________…you may kiss your bride.

Ladies and Gentlemen, it’s my pleasure to introduce to you Mr. and Mrs. ________________ ________________.

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